Hindsight is the greatest of resources, it is a means of learning, growing and recreating yourself. It is the friend that taps you on the shoulder in the midst of the night, reminding you of the promises that you made to yourself; your own shadow scaring you with its presence when you can no longer draw its silhouette.
I believe that we should draw on our own intuitions and listen to the whispers of our organs. Your body is intuitive, it will send you warning signs before you are even able to realise what they are.
When in a relationship, there should never be a tally system. You should not compare and keep count of each other’s generosities. Doing so can breed animosity, which is the driving force to resentment. When doing something for others, it must occur out of love and appreciation for the other person. Give for the sake of giving because your intention speaks louder than the act itself.
It says a lot about a person when they keep track of the things that they have done for you, especially if they are later used as ammunition in their own war. Relationships are not competitions; there is no need to contend. They are a union, and by seeking your own benefits above another’s, you are detracting unity. Generosity is everything, giving because you have the means to and not because you must.
This for me, is the greatest deal breaker.